..that is if you want one

if u dont sense the sarcasm, the point of this journal is so people will finally stop mentioning relationships in a journal that didn't mention anything about a relationship, this info isn't supposed to be useful, but maybe some of the blind will finally shutup and stop posting on the other journal about relationships

******Disclaimer: i could say a whole lot of things here, like this isn't supposed to be a guide, but maybe it'll cover what the blind people don't understand from the other journal because they don't read that it had nothing to do with relationships, but it doesn't matter because no one will read this anyways like they dind't read the disclaimer in the other journal


From popular demand from the blind I entroduce to you a few lines that will tell you all u need to know

it doesn't matter if you're ugly

Be confident, be yourself, express your opninions, be out going, outspoken, dynamic, 'different'

be indefferent toward the girl, but give respect

escalate things through different levels, (close proximity/holding hands/touching)a-z(sex) not a TO z, but quickly, if you plan to get any the same day

don't buy her anything, except for special occasions
if you invite her out expect to pay, if she invites she pays or split the bill

don't compliment, ok to do it once in a blue moon if u really feel to, don't over compliment, females hear this shit all the time

SELF GROWTH: if you dont feel like you have anything to offer or you feel lame, and regardless what you feel, in general, be open minded about things, try new things, don't be scared just do it, try new things every chance you get... if you've always wanted to do something, stop thinking about it, just do it, if you don't do it now, when will you. free your self it's all about you, you're #1, after you then you can start to worry about other things, if you have a bad relationship with your family try to fix it, it's surprising how some people are stuck living behind someone elses shadow, move on and do something about your life. make friends, ask questions, open your self, the end.

Comment #29 @ 20:23 EST, 21 Aug 2005
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By Beer! Morba
why change to be more attractive to women who would normally have no interest in you.
once they realise you have no personalilty they will drop you as quick as they noticed that you pluck your eyebrows!

you mention confidence - this comes from accepting yourself first, if yout not happy with yourself then you wont be confident, your post suggests to me that your not happy with yourself so have no self confidence, hence the change.

let someone like you for who you are, not who they want you to be.
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Comment #33 @ 20:44 EST, 21 Aug 2005
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By Kitty lunatix - Reply to #29
Notice I dind't say to be more attractive to woman, I just said to be attractive in general though female would be my only goal, but it just so happens, the radiance of hotness just spills over tho other things you didn't intend.

And you're right someone should like you for who you are, and I'm fine with who I am, but I know there's people out there that aren't confident enough and they do need to seek change, change for better, not to change themselves as for the person they were, but to enhance themselves and maybe get more confidence they're lacking. And like you said confidence comes from accepting themselves first, maybe someone doesn't accept themselves but they want to, so they have to make certain changes to finally find the confidence they're looking for.

As for me, sure, in the past I didn't have confidence, I dont know if some people are born with confidence or you just develop it, but I had to become confidence, and it sure wasn't from physical appearance. Though in the past, I just thought i wasn't attractive to females, but that wasn't the problem, the problem was that I just didn't attempt to talk and approach females. But the way I am now, females seem to approach me, once again, the whole point of the post was for Physical Attraction, had nothing to do with starting a relationship with anyone.

And like I've heard somewhere before "Attraction isn't a choice." It's true, when someone feels attraction for someone else, It's their body telling them that this person is attractive, and that comes from their environment how they grew up whatever. But even if someone doesn't like you for who you are, they might not like you as a person, but their body has no choice over if they think you're 'hot' or not, that's never gonna change.

New Comment #114 @ 23:04 GMT, 22 Aug 2005
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He's right though. Customizing your apperance based on a certain girl's outlook is sad. << >> New Comment #121 @ 23:31 GMT, 22 Aug 2005
(Reply) By lunatix - Reply to #114
I'm not customizing my appearance for any specific girl, my attractive radiance will be received by old young women and men , simply because the attraction mechanism is built into our brains. Like I mentioned in a previous post where I've heard someone say this before "attraction isn't a choice'" and it's true, it doesn't matter who you are, or if the other person likes you for who you are or not, it's not gonna change the fact that they're attracted to the way you look, they have no choice, their attraction circuitry is just wired that way. Like I said, I wasn't even being specific about females, but for example, even a clueless FEMALE, who her in herself is has a unibrow/unplucked eyebrows, they will feel attracted too. Are you saying just because the other peson is a certain way that they wont. It's also hilarious when I hear, 'she's hot for a black girl' or something in that area... who gives a shit wtf they are, if they're hot they're hot, and the fact is, your body has no choice but to see the obvious of what's infront of them hotness. Which I will just state as attraction. Once you get to know the person, they may have a shitty ass attitude, and then you might not feel 'attraction' for them anymore, though you were initally attracted from the look itself. Doesn't change the fact that they still look good, however you want it to be worded. Also, I have found, and have questioned some females as well about, let me spell it out QUOTE UNQUOTE HOTNESS. Some females are reluctant to have ANYTHING to do with a guy simply because they are so "hot," what I have heard the reason behind this is "because, they have an endless supply of females going to them" so they just asume that the guy is "a guy" as in fucking everything that flocks to him. For those of you people who actually care about relationships and you want someone in that same area, it all starts with being friends first, so even if it's a female who is like that, and you're hot and you want her, you need to be friends first, and show her that you're not the guy she thinks you were. ....I could go on for miles


Comment #171 @ 12:03 EST, 23 Aug 2005
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By Beer! Morba
When do we have the followup to this - 'How to keep that fantastic woman you have pulled' ?

Would be interesting to see your thoughts.
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Comment #177 @ 12:18 EST, 23 Aug 2005
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By Kitty lunatix - Reply to #171
This wasn't to pull anyone, the basis of this article was to simply become more attractive, people will either come up to you or you can hear them snickering about you amongst their friends. As for the person that I am, I wouldn't classify my self as the conventional 'guy.' Though you have all kinds of people who approach from 'ugly' to 'hot,' I would have to say that I'm not really into females that approach me. I akwardly attracted to the ones that don't seem interested in me, EVEN IF THEY'RE UGLY I just get this wierd kind of akward attraction towards them. Isn't that funny? Like I said, the basis of this article is as is what it was, I even had a disclaimer. If you read any of my other replies you see me mentioning about me questioning some females about what they felt about very attractive guys, which can go against you intensions but it doesn't change the fact that they are infact physically attracted to you.